From Foyer to Kitchen by Andy Stanley
These are my notes from a DVD message titled “From Foyer to Kitchen” by Andy Stanley. We watched this today at our Session retreat for First Presbyterian Church of Edmond, Oklahoma. This video is 6-8 years old (no longer available on Amazon) and there are several things Andy’s team has modified since. This post has a video of Andy talking about these ideas, similar to what we watched on today’s DVD.
We believe the local church should be irresistible
– children and parents should wake up on Sunday morning and say, “We want to go to church.”
We believe people who are NOT believers YET should be able to attend on Sunday morning, and want to go back the next week and check it out
– in the Gospels, Jesus was irresistible
– he wasn’t someone you could ignore or marginalize
– the Church is the Body of Christ
– our local church and yours should reflect that same thing in society
Story of explaining in Atlanta, GA
– we need more relevant environments where believers and non-believers can connect to each other and connect to our heavenly Father
This drove us to start Northpoint Community Church
– started with 6 staff
– hammered out mission statement: “Lead people into a growing relationship with Jesus Christ”
– that was our version of saying the “Great Commission”
– 3 components or pursuits:
-1 pursue intimacy with God
-2 community with insiders / believers
-3 influence with others outside the faith
Generally discipleship or spiritual growth has been relegated to a series of classes
– it meant “how much Bible do you know” (verses)
Our goal for people wasn’t an amount of knowledge or number of classes you’d attended, but the degree to which people are engaged in these 3 pursuits
Our strategy recognized we can’t MAKE someone do any of these things
All of us in the group who valued these three pursuits realized we developed those passions and routines was ENVIRONMENT
– relevant environment
We decided if we created those environments, trained people to lead in those environments, and …
Mission: Lead People
Strategy: Creating environments where participants are encouraged and equipped to [engage in those 3 pursuits]
We named the 3 environments for rooms in the house
1- Foyer
2- Living Room
3- Kitchen
These environments do three different things
Foyer environment: Where we expect GUESTS
When guests are in your home, things are different: There are things you DO talk about, and things you don’t
– you change who you are as a family or what you believe, but you tailor the environment for the guest so they feel welcome and want to come back
– we decided we needed to create some safe “foyer” environments to help guests feel welcome
Living Room environment: people start to connect as friends
middle circle (we found) is the most difficult/challenging
– everyone talks about getting people into small groups
– we have constantly updated the transition part in the living room, when people
Life for our family happens in the kitchen
– this is our ultimate small group environment
– that is where life happens
– in the foyer you feel like a guest
– in the living room you start to make connections
– in the kitchen community with insiders happens
We want everyone at the kitchen table
For adults we have 3 kinds of small groups: (that’s the only one that meets on Sunday mornings at our church)
1- starting point small groups: open group
2- starter groups: we call it “dating” – it lasts 6 weeks, gives people a taste of group life, if they want to move on together they can – targeted group
3- community groups: meet for 12 to 18 months, then they reform (they are closed groups)
We’ve discovered community doesn’t happen in an unpredictable environment
– life on life doesn’t happen in an environment where trust is uncertain
Every small group comes to an end: either a happy end or a small end
– people may go forward and multiple
– people may decide they never want to be in another group
Life happens within the church when we are focused together
Our focus to evaluate all new PROGRAMS: Does this help us move people from the foyer, to the living room, to the kitchen?
– we try to “add steps, not programs”
– need to fill in gaps, help people move toward growth…
“Your church strategy is perfectly designed to get the results you’re getting”
– so if you want to see change, to become an irresistible church, then discover what your strategy is and change it so you can talk about it intelligently so people understand what you are doing and how you do it
Question: Are your ENVIRONMENTSÂ accomplishing the mission
3 takeaways:
- Would you go home and spend time clarifying your purpose / mission? What is the WIN we are wanting to celebrate?
- Would you go home and think through what it would take to develop a strategy? Can you put it in terms you can explain to your people? (This creates amazing synergy)
- Focus your environments
“Everybody wants to give their time and energy to something they understand” (you need to clarify your strategy w different terms)